If someone asked me to tell them all of my problems, they might quickly find that we have a lot in common. Like many of you, I have stress coming at me from all sides. I have challenges in my marriage. My kids, while I love them beyond imagination, drive me bonkers from time to time. ;) I make mistakes. I disappoint those I love. I lose clients.
But — and this is a BIG but — I have trained myself to focus on staying positive and have been skillful and deliberate in surrounding myself with others who possess similar perspectives. This keeps me balanced and optimistic during the highs and lows of life. If, instead, I chose to spend my time focused on the negatives or what I lost or don’t yet have, then success would always be an arm’s length away. And my happiness and health would likely suffer too.
The power of positive thinking has helped me build a successful company. And what’s great about these strategies is that they can be easily replicated by everyone reading this right now. Whether you are launching your own business or grinding out long hours of parenthood, positive thinking can get through to the other side.
Here are six ways that I have maintained a positive outlook and that, I hope, will help you find your own pathway to success.
Surrounded myself with positive people.
From just the early days when Restaurant HR Group was getting started, I was strategic and careful in the people I surrounded myself with. I have hired an amazing team that is comprised of eternally happy and positive people who are also highly capable and forward-thinking. I carry this same strategy not only throughout my work, but also with who I follow on social media, my friends, and even my family. There’s no room for negative people and I make it a point to remove them from my life as quickly as possible.
Lift up others.
Because I have cultivated a supportive team around me who constantly lifts me up, it makes it almost a natural progression for me to turn around and do the same for others. Each day, set a goal to offer a simple (but honest) compliment to someone, perform a random act of kindness, or just even make eye contact and smile at those folks you pass on the street. Giving back to the community and committing to be a difference-maker in this sometimes crazy, chaotic world has been a pivotal aspect of lifting up others too.
Express gratitude daily.
It’s easy to get bogged down in our troubles and not see all that is going well around us. I try to remember to be grateful for the life I have, because no matter how hard I’ve worked to obtain it, there is certainly some element of luck to it all. There is always someone who has struggles much greater than mine. And I don’t take that for granted.
Own, and learn from, mistakes.
I am far from perfect. And you know what, that’s totally OK! I make more than my fair share of mistakes, but I’ve chosen to shake them off, learn from them, and carry on. I could dwell on them, beat myself up about it, and really get bogged down in the nitty gritty, but doing so really serves no useful purpose. So onward I go.
Stay true to myself.
Authenticity is so important. Being yourself helps you communicate in a more clear and natural way and fosters true connections with others. And let’s face it. People are smart and intuitive — they can see through insincerity in a heartbeat. So I don’t fake it or only go half in. And you shouldn’t either. Live out life as the person you genuinely are…not as someone else wants or expects you to be.
Enjoy the journey.
When I hit those inevitable bumps in the road, it helps to remember that this is really just that — a slight hiccup. Life will go on, things will get better, and another day will dawn. So instead of getting overwhelmed by the jostles of life, I try to enjoy the process and love every step of the journey. And whether it’s my personal or professional life, I celebrate both small and large victories with equal vigor.
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